When someone close to you dies, condolence letters, flowers, cards and memorials show up at your door and sometimes seem overwhelming. Not everyone who sends you tributes to your loved one's memory expects a thank-you note, but it is a matter of etiquette you need to consider. During this tough time, people understand you have other things on your mind, so it is OK to take your time sending notes of gratitude. Make sure, however, to write a thank-you note within two weeks to a month of the funeral service to those who sent flowers or donated to charity.
Instructions
1. Take note of who sent flowers, gifts, cards or memorials to your loved one's funeral. Make a list of those names, as well as clergy, pallbearers and caretakers, if there were any.
2. Write your note, acknowledging and thanking the person for their contributions to your love one's life. For instance: "Dear John: Thank you for the beautiful flowers/contribution to _____ charity. Your thoughts at this time are greatly appreciated." Make sure they know you, as well as the person who died, appreciated all they have done while keeping the note simple.
3. Close your note with another expression of gratitude, and sign your name; this will keep the note short but personal.
4. Address, stamp and mail your letters. The sooner you mail your notes, the better. However, it is appropriate to wait up to two weeks to a month after the service to send thank-you notes.
